الأدب المفرد Hadith 48-61

الأدب المفرد
Hadith 48-61

25 – بَابُ وُجُوبِ وصِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ
Chapter : The Duty of maintaining ties of kinship

48 – صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ مُوسَى بْنِ طَلْحَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: لَمَّا نَزَلَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةُ {وَأَنْذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الأَقْرَبِينَ} قَامَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَنَادَى: يَا بَنِي كَعْبِ بْنِ لُؤَيٍّ، أَنْقِذُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ. يَا بَنِي عَبْدِ مَنَافٍ، أَنْقِذُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ. يَا بَنِي هَاشِمٍ، أَنْقِذُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ. يَا بَنِي عَبْدِ الْمُطَّلِبِ، أَنْقِذُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ مِنَ النَّارِ. يَا فَاطِمَةُ بِنْتَ مُحَمَّدٍ، أَنْقِذِي نَفْسَكِ مِنَ النَّارِ، فَإِنِّي لاَ أَمْلِكُ لَكِ مِنَ اللهِ شَيْئًا، غَيْرَ أَنَّ لَكُمْ رَحِمًا سَأَبُلُّهُمَا بِبِلاَلِهَا.
Abu Hurayra said : When the following ayat was revealed {Warn your near relatives} (26:214)
the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم stood up and called out, saying, ‘Banu Ka’b ibn Lu’ayy! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu ‘Abdu Manaf! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu Hashim! Save yourselves from the Fire! Banu ‘Abdu’l-Muttalib! Save yourselves from the Fire! Fatima, daughter of Muhammad! Save yourselves from the Fire! I do not have anything for you in respect to Allah except for the fact that you have ties of kinship.

When this ayah was revealed, the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم called all his tribes, and and told them to save themselves.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم told his daughter Fatimah, that he could not do anything for her, everyone has to save themselves from the hellfire.

This hadith tell us that it is obligatory to maintain the ties of kinship, and also make da’wah to your family first. صلة الرحم, to maintain the ties of kinship, is not a favour. It is obligatory, and therefore it should be your priority.

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26 – بَابُ صِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ
Chapter : Maintaining ties of kinship
– صحيح 49
حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ مَوْهَبٍ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ مُوسَى بْنَ طَلْحَةَ يَذْكُرُ، عَنْ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ الأَنْصَارِيِّ، أَنَّ أَعْرَابِيًّا عَرَضَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي مَسِيرِهِ، فَقَالَ: أَخْبِرْنِي مَا يُقَرِّبُنِي مِنَ الْجَنَّةِ، وَيُبَاعِدُنِي مِنَ النَّارِ؟ قَالَ: تَعْبُدُ اللَّهَ وَلاَ تُشْرِكْ بِهِ شَيْئًا، وَتُقِيمُ الصَّلاَةَ، وَتُؤْتِي الزَّكَاةَ، وَتَصِلُ الرَّحِم.
Abu Ayyub al-Ansari told him that a bedouin came to the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم, while he was travelling. He asked : Tell me what will bring me near to the Garden and keep me far from the Fire. He replied : Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, perform the prayer, pay zakat, and maintain ties of kinship.

The Bedouins were very direct in their questions, and we benefit from them. This is the wisdom of Allah. A student can be a source of blessings for the teacher, by asking his question.

All four points in this hadith are obligatory.

You must maintain the ties of kinship even if your relatives are disbelievers, or are bad to you. In this case, it
seems like a burden, and that is the challenge. Your family is always different from you, and this is a mercy,
because then you maintain ties only for the sake of Allah.

There is an Arabic proverb ⏩ الأقارب كالعقارب في أذاها ⏩ relatives are like scorpions in their harm.

You must connect with them in any way, by calling, messaging, visiting, as long as it is not in a haram way, whatever is easy for the relatives. There must be a balance, so that it is not a burden for them.

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– صحيح 50
حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ أَبِي أُوَيْسٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ بِلاَلٍ، عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ أَبِي مُزَرِّدٍ، عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ: خَلَقَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ الْخَلْقَ، فَلَمَّا فَرَغَ مِنْهُ قَامَتِ الرَّحِمُ، فَقَالَ: مَهْ، قَالَتْ: هَذَا مَقَامُ الْعَائِذِ بِكَ مِنَ الْقَطِيعَةِ، قَالَ: أَلاَ تَرْضَيْنَ أَنْ أَصِلَ مَنْ وَصَلَكِ، وَأَقْطَعَ مَنْ قَطَعَكِ؟ قَالَتْ: بَلَى يَا رَبِّ، قَالَ: فَذَلِكَ لَكِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ: اقْرَؤُوا إِنْ شِئْتُمْ: {فَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِنْ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَنْ تُفْسِدُوا فِي الأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ}.
Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم said, “Allah Almighty created creation. When He had finished it, ties of kinship rose up. Allah said, ‘Stop!’ They said, ‘This is the place for anyone seeking refuge with You from being cut off’ Allah said, ‘Are you not content that I should maintain connections with the one who maintains connection with you and I should cut off the one who cuts you off?’ It replied, ‘Yes indeed, my Lord.’ He said, ‘You have that.'”

The word رَحِم , the womb, comes from the word رحمة , mercy.

The baby in the womb is connected to the parents and their relatives.

Put in your mind ↘️
إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ
Indeed, Allah is over all things competent.
سورة البقرة
2:20

It may come to your mind that the ties of kinship is abstract, so how could it speak? But remember, when a person is buried, his deeds will appear in tangible form, as a person. Also, in another example, death means the souls is removed from the body, but on the Day of Judgement, death will be brought in the form of a sheep, and will be slaughtered to signify that there will be no death henceforth. In the same way, the رحم, the relationship, appeared in a tangible form, and spoke. Allah can make the abstract as tangible. We don’t need any further explanation.

Imagine a baby in the womb, will die if the if the umbilical cord attaching it to the womb, the رحم, was cut.

الواصل وصلهُ الله
القاطع قطعهُ الله
Allah will disconnect with the one who cuts the ties of kinship, and connect with the one who maintains them. Allah knows us, that all of us will not connect, so He gives this incentive.

Any disconnection makes you unhappy. The more you connect with your relatives, the more Allah connects with you. We have a tendency to disconnect with those whom we should maintain the ties of kinship, and connect with friends. This connection is a responsibility given to you, and it’s termination leads to mischief and corruption. This shows us the importance of fulfilling it.

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27 – بَابُ فَضْلِ صِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ
Chapter: The excellence of maintaining ties of kinship

– صحيح 52
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُبَيْدِ اللهِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنِ الْعَلاَءِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ: أَتَى رَجُلٌ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، إِنَّ لِي قَرَابَةً أَصِلُهُمْ وَيَقْطَعُونَ، وَأُحْسِنُ إِلَيْهِمْ وَيُسِيئُونَ إِلَيَّ، وَيَجْهَلُونَ عَلَيَّ وَأَحْلُمُ عَنْهُمْ، قَالَ: لَئِنْ كَانَ كَمَا تَقُولُ كَأَنَّمَا تُسِفُّهُمُ الْمَلَّ، وَلاَ يَزَالُ مَعَكَ مِنَ اللهِ ظَهِيرٌ عَلَيْهِمْ مَا دُمْتَ عَلَى ذَلِكَ.
Abu Hurayra said : A man came to the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم, and said, Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties while they cut me off. I am good to them while they are bad to me. They behave foolishly towards me while I am forbearing towards them. The Prophet said : If things are as you said, it is as if you were putting hot ashes on them and you will not lack a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do that.

When you are trying to connect, and your relatives are harsh to you, continue doing your part without complaining, even if they don’t respond. You are connecting, and they are the ones disconnecting, so they will feel pain and disturbance.
Keep doing ihsan, and Allah will support you. It may be painful for you, but they will feel more pain. They feel a burning pain when you connect with them, so they try to hurt you, but Allah will help you.

This is encouragement for you not to stop, because you are not connecting with them for yourself, but for the sake of Allah. The one who connects is the better one.

There are always issues with family, and this is a mercy, because then you will do it for the pleasure of Allah.

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– صحيح 53
حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ أَبِي أُوَيْسٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَخِي، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ بْنِ بِلاَلٍ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ أَبِي عَتِيقٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، أَنَّ أَبَا الرَّدَّادِ اللَّيْثِيَّ أَخْبَرَهُ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عَوْفٍ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: قَالَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ: أَنَا الرَّحْمَنُ، وَأَنَا خَلَقْتُ الرَّحِمَ، وَاشْتَقَقْتُ لَهَا مِنَ اسْمِي، فَمَنْ وَصَلَهَا وَصَلْتُهُ، وَمَنْ قَطَعَهَا بَتَتُّهُ.
Abdu’r-Rahman ibn ‘Awf heard the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم say : Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, said : I am the Merciful (ar-Rahman). I have created ties of kinship and derives a name for it from My Name. If anyone maintains ties of kinship, I maintain connection with him, and I shall cut off anyone who cuts them off.

This is الحديث القدسي, a Divine Hadith.

Allah connects the ties of kinship with His mercy. This makes the relation so special. When you connect, you get the mercy of Allah. The رحم has such a high status, derived from the mercy of Allah.

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صحيح – 54
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ عُثْمَانَ بْنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ، عَنْ أَبِي الْعَنْبَسِ قَالَ: دَخَلْتُ عَلَى عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو فِي الْوَهْطِ يَعْنِي أَرْضًا لَهُ بِالطَّائِفِ، فَقَالَ: عَطَفَ لَنَا النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِصْبَعَهُ فَقَالَ: الرَّحِمُ شُجْنَةٌ مِنَ الرَّحْمَنِ، مَنْ يَصِلْهَا يَصِلْهُ، وَمَنْ يَقْطَعْهَا يَقْطَعْهُ، لَهَا لِسَانٌ طَلْقٌ ذَلْقٌ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ.
Abu’l-‘Anbas said, “I visited ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr at al-Waht (some land of his in Ta’if). He said : The Prophet صلى
الله عليه و سلم pointed his finger towards us and said, Kinship (rahim) us derived from the All-Merciful (Rahman).
When someone maintains the connections of ties of kinship, they maintain connection with him. If someone
cuts them off, they cut him off. They will have an unfettered, eloquent tongue on the Day of Rising.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم sometimes explained a point by using gestures.

are veins, like the branches of a tree, connected together. This reminds us of a family tree. If you cut شجنة
one branch off, all are gone. So the رحم is connected with الرحمن, the Most Merciful. If you disconnect the ties of kinship, you are deprived of the mercy of Allah. The relation is connected to Allah, so don’t look at the people, look at Allah.

طلقٌ ذلقٌ ◀️ فصيح و بليغ
Eloquent and firm.
On the Day of Judgment, the رحم will speak eloquently and firmly.

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28 – بَابُ صِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ تَزِيدُ فِي الْعُمْرِ
Chapter : Maintaining ties of kinship will prolong life

– صحيح 56
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي اللَّيْثُ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي عَقِيلٌ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي أَنَسُ بْنُ مَالِكٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ: مَنْ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يُبْسَطَ لَهُ فِي رِزْقِهِ، وَأَنْ يُنْسَأَ لَهُ فِي أَثَرِهِ، فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ.
Anas ibn Malik reported that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم said : Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life prolonged should maintain ties of kinship.

ثواب المعجل
The reward is brought forward in dunya.

There are two results for صلة الرحم, maintaining the ties of kinship ↙️
🔺enlargement and blessing for the provision
🔺the time of death is delayed
These two things are loved by the human being, so it is encouragement for us to maintain these relations.

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– صحيح 57
حَدَّثَنَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ الْمُنْذِرِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مَعْنٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْمَقْبُرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ : سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: مَنْ سَرَّهُ أَنْ يُبْسَطَ لَهُ فِي رِزْقِهِ، وَأَنْ يُنْسَأَ لَهُ فِي أَثَرِهِ، فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ.
Abu Hurayra heard that the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم , say : Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life lengthened should maintain ties of kinship.

People usually don’t connect with relatives because they are busy with their provisions. So this Hadith tells us that maintaining the ties of kinship is not a waste of time and money, but rather a means of increasing the provision.

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29 – بَابُ مَنْ وَصَلَ رَحِمَهُ أَحَبَّهُ أَهْلُهُ
Chapter: Allah loves the one who maintains ties of kinship

– صحيح 58
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ كَثِيرٍ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ أَبِي إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ مَغْرَاءَ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ قَالَ: مَنِ اتَّقَى رَبَّهُ، وَوَصَلَ
رَحِمَهُ، نُسِّئَ فِي أَجَلِهِ، وَثَرَى مَالُهُ، وَأَحَبَّهُ أَهْلُهُ.
Ibn ‘Umar said : If someone fears his Lord and maintains ties of kinship, his term of life will be prolonged, he will have abundant wealth and his people will love him.

When you connect with your family, Allah will make your household love you. This is a consequence of the love of Allah. صلة الرحم makes Allah love you, so everyone loves you. This is حسن الظن بالله, thinking good of Allah. If you connect and think Allah does not love you, this is سوء الظن بالله, thinking badly of Allah.

All this is reward in dunya.
Taqwa is mentioned first, because because you may follow your desires, and visit those relatives that you want. All your relatives have rights join you.

The one who has taqwa, and connects ↙️
🔺his death is delayed
🔺his wealth is increased
🔺his household loves him

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30 – بَابُ بِرِّ الأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِ
Chapter: Being dutiful to the closest relative and then the next

– صحيح 60
حَدَّثَنَا حَيْوَةُ بْنُ شُرَيْحٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا بَقِيَّةُ، عَنْ بَحِيرٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِي كَرِبَ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ، ثُمَّ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ، ثُمَّ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ، ثُمَّ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِ.
It is reported that al-Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib heard the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم say : Allah enjoins you to be dutiful to your mothers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your mothers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your fathers. Then He enjoins you to be dutiful to your next closest relative and then to your next closest relative.

The closer relatives have priority over you.

This Hadith goes back to being dutiful to your parents. The rights of the mother are doubled in this Hadith. Then comes the father. And then the other relatives, according to how close the relation.

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صحيح – 61
حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا الْخَزْرَجُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ أَبُو الْخَطَّابِ السَّعْدِيُّ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو أَيُّوبَ سُلَيْمَانُ مَوْلَى عُثْمَانَ بْنِ عَفَّانَ قَالَ: جَاءَنَا أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ عَشِيَّةَ الْخَمِيسِ لَيْلَةَ الْجُمُعَةِ فَقَالَ: أُحَرِّجُ عَلَى كُلِّ قَاطِعِ رَحِمٍ لَمَا قَامَ مِنْ عِنْدِنَا، فَلَمْ يَقُمْ أَحَدٌ حَتَّى قَالَ ثَلاَثًا، فَأَتَى فَتًى عَمَّةً لَهُ قَدْ صَرَمَهَا مُنْذُ سَنَتَيْنِ، فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا، فَقَالَتْ لَهُ: يَا ابْنَ أَخِي، مَا جَاءَ بِكَ؟ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ يَقُولُ كَذَا وَكَذَا، قَالَتِ: ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِ فَسَلْهُ: لِمَ قَالَ ذَاكَ؟ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ: إِنَّ أَعْمَالَ بَنِي آدَمَ تُعْرَضُ عَلَى اللهِ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى عَشِيَّةَ كُلِّ خَمِيسٍ لَيْلَةَ الْجُمُعَةِ، فَلاَ يَقْبَلُ عَمَلَ قَاطِعِ رَحِمٍ.
Abu Ayyub Sulayman, the mawla of ‘Uthman ibn ‘Affan, said, “Abu Hurayra came to us on a Thursday evening, the night before Jumu’a. He said, ‘Every individual who severs ties of kinship is constricted when he leaves us. No one left until he had said that three times. Then a young man went to one of his paternal aunts with whom he had severed ties two years previously. He went to her and she asked him, ‘Nephew! What has brought you?’ He replied, ‘I heard Abu Hurayra say such-and-such.’ She said, ‘Go back to him and ask him why he said that.’ Abu Hurayra said, ‘I heard the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم say, “The actions of the children of Adam are presented before Allah Almighty on Thursday evening, the night before Jumu’a. He does not accept the actions of someone who has severed ties of kinship.

This Hadith shows the blessing of the study circle. Don’t expose your sins, but reform yourself secretly.

The deeds are nor accepted from the one who severs the ties of kinship. He may have sincerity, and follow the way of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم, but because he is قاطع الرحم, the one who severs the ties of kinship, his deeds are rejected.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه did not like anyone with this deed to sit in his gatherings.

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