الأدب المفرد Hadith 15-25

الأدب المفرد
حديث 15-25

7 – بَابُ عُقُوقِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ
Disobedience to Parents
15. صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ الْفَضْلِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا الْجُرَيْرِيُّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم: أَلاَ أُنَبِّئُكُمْ بِأَكْبَرِ الْكَبَائِرِ؟ ثَلاَثًا، قَالُوا: بَلَى يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، قَالَ: الإِشْرَاكُ بِاللَّهِ، وَعُقُوقُ الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَجَلَسَ وَكَانَ مُتَّكِئًا أَلاَ وَقَوْلُ الزُّورِ، مَا زَالَ يُكَرِّرُهَا حَتَّى قُلْتُ: لَيْتَهُ سَكَتَ.
Abu Bakra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Shall I tell you which is the worst of the major wrong actions?” “Yes, Messenger of Allah,” they replied. He said, “Associating something else with Allah and disobeying parents.” He had been reclining but then he sat up and said, “and false witness.” Abu Bakra said, “He continued to repeat it until I said, ‘Is he never going to stop?'”

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم taught in different and interesting ways. In this hadith he used أسلوب التنبيه, admonition and warning. He repeated the words to make everyone alert. The three major sins mentioned in this hadith are the greatest of the major sins.

🔺الشرك ▶️ associating a partner with Allah, is a sin which is never forgiven without sincere repentance, the one who dies in a state of shirk will remain in the hellfire for eternity.
🔺عقوق الولدين ▶️ disobedience to parents is a worse sin than killing.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم was reclining in the beginning of the hadith, and then sat up. This shows that it is appropriate for the teacher to lean back while teaching, but not for the students. The صحابة, the Companions of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم sat upright and still when learning from him, as if there was a bird sitting on their heads.

🔺قول الزُّور ▶️ bearing false witness, which is lying, falsehood never to be done, in any matter. He empathized this because shirk is obviously bad, and people know that they should be obedient to their parents. But lying is something which people can take lightly, an can slip into, when following Hejira desires. This is specially for giving false testimony in court.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم repeated the last point so many times, that the sahabah felt bad for him, because they cared so much for him, and wished he would stop.

The major sins are the ones which have a penalty in life, and a warning for a punishment in the hereafter. All the other sins are minor.


صحيح 16.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلاَمٍ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ عُمَيْرٍ، عَنْ وَرَّادٍ، كَاتِبِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ، قَالَ: كَتَبَ مُعَاوِيَةُ إِلَى الْمُغِيرَةِ: اكْتُبْ إِلَيَّ بِمَا سَمِعْتَ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم. قَالَ وَرَّادٌ: فَأَمْلَى عَلَيَّ وَكَتَبْتُ بِيَدَيَّ: إِنِّي سَمِعْتُهُ يَنْهَى عَنْ كَثْرَةِ السُّؤَالِ، وَإِضَاعَةِ الْمَالِ، وَعَنْ قِيلَ وَقَالَ.
Warrad, the scribe of al-Mughira ibn Shu’ba, said, “Mu’awiya wrote to al-Mughira, saying, ‘Write down for me
what you heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say.'” Warrad said, “He
dictated to me and I wrote out, ‘I heard him forbid asking too many questions, wasting money and chit-chat.'”

In this Hadith, the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم forbade three things ↙️
🔺كثرة السؤال ▶️ this refers to begging, asking people for money, excessive favours, asking for things without any reason. These unnecessary questions don’t increase faith or knowledge. So before you ask someone a question, ask yourself whether it is beneficial, and increases you in faith.
🔺إضاعة المال ▶️ wasting money. Wealth, or مالْ, comes from the verb مالَ, which means to incline towards something. Wealth is something the human being is attached to, the heart inclines to it. This can be any material thing. Don’t waste your wealth on something which has no benefit.
🔺قيل و قال ▶️ chatting with people, to be busy with the talk of people. This does not refer to back biting, but just vain talk. It is a waste of time and occupies your heart.

▪️كثرة الكلام, excessive vain talk, is related to three things ↙️
🔹Connected with dunya, such as fashion, politics, sports, etc. The news of the dunya makes a person greedy, wanting to compete in material things. This is a means of قساوة القلب, hardening of the heart.
🔹Something not concerning you, which is other people’s matters.
🔹Thoughts and illusions.
The scholars have given a description of the person who is easily lured into قيل و قال ↙️
🔸The person who cannot control himself when he sees and hears something; he will talk about it.
🔸The person who cannot don’t do his emotions and thoughts, so he speaks about them.


8 – بَابُ لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ لَعَنَ وَالِدَيْهِ
Chapter: Allah curses whoever curses his parents

Someone who curses his parents is the worst, and is cursed by Allah, and cut off from His mercy. In general, the لعن, or curse, is not allowed for anyone. The لعن is like a boomerang, and will return to the person who sent it, if the person he is cursing doesn’t deserve it.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم said :
من حلف على يمين بملة غير الإسلام كاذبًا متعمدًا، فهو كما قال، ومن قتل نفسه بشيء، عُذب به يوم القيامة، وليس على رجل نذر فيما لا يملكه، ولعن المؤمن كقتله.
متفق عليه، رياض الصالحين، كتاب # 18، حديث # 1551
He who swears by a religion other than that of Islam, is like what he has professed. He who kills himself with something, will be tormented with it on the Day of Resurrection. A person is not bound to fulfill a vow about something which he does not possess. Cursing a believer is like murdering him.

Cursing parents can be in two ways ↙️
🔹Directly, when someone says لعنة الله عليك, the curse of Allah be upon you.
🔹Indirectly, when you curse someone else’s parents and that person retaliates and curses your parents. So you are the one who causes it.

Sometimes the behaviour of some person may make others curse his upbringing, i.e., the parents.

17. صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ مَرْزُوقٍ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ بْنِ أَبِي بَزَّةَ، عَنْ أَبِي الطُّفَيْلِ قَالَ: سُئِلَ عَلِيٌّ: هَلْ خَصَّكُمُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِشَيْءٍ لَمْ يَخُصَّ بِهِ النَّاسَ كَافَّةً؟ قَالَ: مَا خَصَّنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِشَيْءٍ لَمْ يَخُصَّ بِهِ النَّاسَ، إِلاَّ مَا فِي قِرَابِ سَيْفِي، ثُمَّ أَخْرَجَ صَحِيفَةً، فَإِذَا فِيهَا مَكْتُوبٌ: لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ ذَبَحَ لِغَيْرِ اللهِ، لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ
سَرَقَ مَنَارَ الأَرْضِ، لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ لَعَنَ وَالِدَيْهِ، لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ آوَى مُحْدِثًا.
Abu’t-Tufayl said, “‘Ali was asked, ‘Did the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, give you something special which he did not give to anyone else?’ He replied, ‘The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, did not give me anything special which he did not give to everyone else except for what I have in my sword scabbard.’ He brought out a piece of paper. Written on that paper was:
‘Allah curses anyone who sacrifices an animal to something other than Allah. Allah curses anyone who steals a milestone. Allah curses anyone who curses his parents. Allah curses anyone who gives shelter to an innovator.'”

Ali Ibn Abu Talib was the cousin of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم. He was the first youth to become Muslim. He was the husband of Fatimah, and the father of Hassan and Husein. He was asked whether the household of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم had something special. After the death of the Propeht صلى الله عليه و سلم, people wanted to know about his household, whether they knew something no one else was told about.

Ali brought out a piece of paper, on which he had wrote something he heard.

There were four things written in that paper ↙️
🔺 لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ ذَبَحَ لِغَيْرِ اللهِ ▶️ the curse of Allah upon the one who slaughters an animal for someone rather than Allah. Slaughter is a worship. Allah says in Surah Al Kawther ↙️

فَصَلِّ لِرَبِّكَ وَانْحَرْ
So pray to your Lord and sacrifice [to Him alone]
سورة الكوثر

There are two ways of slaughtering ↙️
🔹To slaughter for a grave or a jinn. This is shirk, because it is done to please someone rather than Allah.
🔹Using the name of someone else rather than Allah at the time of slaughter, instead of saying بِسْم الله.

🔺لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ سَرَقَ مَنَارَ الأَرْضِ، ▶️ the curse of Allah upon the one who usurps land which doesn’t belong to him. Even a handspan of land which you take over, which doesn’t belong to you, will be around your neck, under the earth, on the Day of Judgement.

🔺لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ لَعَنَ وَالِدَيْهِ ▶️ the curse of Allah upon the one who curses his parents.

🔺لَعَنَ اللَّهُ مَنْ آوَى مُحْدِثًا ▶️ the curse of Allah upon the one who supports a criminal, or someone who innovates in religion. We must defend the sunnah, and attach to the tawheed; stop the bid’ah, not help it spread.


9 – بَابُ يَبَرُّ وَالِدَيْهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُنْ مَعْصِيَةً
Chapter: Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience
.18 حسن لغيره
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ الْبَصْرِيُّ لَقِيتُهُ بِالرَّمْلَةِ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي رَاشِدٌ أَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ، عَنْ شَهْرِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ، عَنْ أُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ قَالَ: أَوْصَانِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم بِتِسْعٍ: لاَ تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا ؛ وَإِنْ قُطِّعْتَ أَوْ حُرِّقْتَ، وَلاَ تَتْرُكَنَّ الصَّلاَةَ الْمَكْتُوبَةَ مُتَعَمِّدًا، وَمَنْ تَرَكَهَا مُتَعَمِّدًا بَرِئَتْ مِنْهُ الذِّمَّةُ، وَلاَ تَشْرَبَنَّ الْخَمْرَ، فَإِنَّهَا مِفْتَاحُ كُلِّ شَرٍّ، وَأَطِعْ وَالِدَيْكَ، وَإِنْ أَمَرَاكَ أَنْ تَخْرُجَ مِنْ دُنْيَاكَ فَاخْرُجْ لَهُمَا، وَلاَ تُنَازِعَنَّ وُلاَةَ الأَمْرِ وَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ أَنَّكَ أَنْتَ، وَلاَ تَفْرُرْ مِنَ الزَّحْفِ، وَإِنْ هَلَكْتَ وَفَرَّ أَصْحَابُكَ، وَأَنْفِقْ مِنْ طَوْلِكَ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ، وَلاَ تَرْفَعْ عَصَاكَ عَنْ أَهْلِكَ، وَأَخِفْهُمْ فِي اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ.
Abu’d-Darda’ said, “The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, recommended nine things to me: ‘Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned. Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah’s protection. Do not drink wine – it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If they command you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave them for them. Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in the right. Do not run away from the army when it advances, even if you are killed while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means. Do not raise a stick against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.'”

Abu Ad Darda’ was a devotee and a worshipper, and the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم adviced him.

1⃣ لاَ تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا ▶️ don’t associate with Allah, under any circumstances. The place of tawheed and shirk is in the heart, so if you are threatened with physical harm, it doesn’t matter of you utter shirk with your tongue, as long as your heart is on tawheed. Ammar Ibn Yasser was young, and his parents were killed by the disbelievers. He was afraid of being tortured too, so he pretended to go back to disbelief. But his heart remained in tawheed.

Don’t let your heart change, even though you may be forced outwardly. Allah will account you on the actions of your heart.

Shirk is اكبر كبائر, from the greatest of the major sins. If someone dies in a state of shirk, he will remain in hellfire for eternity. It is only forgiven with sincere repentance.

2⃣ وَلاَ تَتْرُكَنَّ الصَّلاَةَ الْمَكْتُوبَةَ مُتَعَمِّدًا، وَمَنْ تَرَكَهَا مُتَعَمِّدًا بَرِئَتْ مِنْهُ الذِّمَّةُ ▶️ don’t leave the obligatory prayers deliberately, because that will make you like a kafir. When you are a Muslim, you have a حرمة, protection. Sometimes people deny the obligatory prayers completely, saying that such a command doesn’t exist.

3⃣ وَلاَ تَشْرَبَنَّ الْخَمْرَ، فَإِنَّهَا مِفْتَاحُ كُلِّ شَرٍّ ▶️ don’t consume alcohol, it is the key to all evil. It is called أم الخبائث, and أم الفواحش, the mother of all evil, and the mother of all immoral acts.

Alcohol, or خمر, is a خمار, or covering on the intellect. The one who drinks alcohol is under the control of the shaitan. The دعوة الشر, invitation to evil, starts with alcohol.

4⃣ وَأَطِعْ وَالِدَيْكَ، وَإِنْ أَمَرَاكَ أَنْ تَخْرُجَ مِنْ دُنْيَاكَ فَاخْرُجْ لَهُمَ ▶️ obey your parents in everything, to the extent that if they ask you to leave all your wealth and property, you must do so.

A man came to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم and said :
يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي مَالاً وَوَلَدًا وَإِنَّ أَبِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَجْتَاحَ مَالِي
O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and a son, and my father wants to take all my wealth.
He صلى الله عليه و سلم said :
أَنْتَ وَمَالُكَ لأَبِيكَ
You and your wealth belong to your father.
سنن ابن ماجة ، كتاب # 12، حديث # 2379

Your wealth actually belongs to your parents, so if they take it, it’s fine. The dunya is not important. Don’t think you are doing your parents a favour. Whatever you do for them, you can never fulfill their rights upon you.

5⃣ وَلاَ تُنَازِعَنَّ وُلاَةَ الأَمْرِ وَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ أَنَّكَ أَنْت ▶️ don’t dispute with the one in charge in any institution. The leader can be a ruler, president, principal, teacher, husband, mother. They are the ones who make the rules. We must obey our leader, except if he asks us to sin. Don’t argue or give your opinion, even amongst yourselves, as this creates fitnah in the society.

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم said :
اسمعوا وأطيعوا، وإن استعمل عليكم عبد حبشي، كأن رأسه زبيبة.
البخاري ، رياض الصالحين، كتاب #1، حديث #666
Hear and obey even if an Abyssinian slave whose head is like a raisin is placed in authority over you.

On a smaller scale, we have the head of the family, be it the husband, or the father or mother. This is a safeguard for the society. You should not dispute even if your are on the truth, and the leader is wrong. This is for matters of dunya, not Deen. Your opinion may be better, but you still must obey the leader unquestioningly. To dispute with the leader is فساد عظيم, a great mischief. We must teach our children this from childhood, that Islam does not teach us to argue.

The أصحاب باطل, the people of falsehood, will teach you إنك أنت, that you have a right to argue and demand, but this is not a strength. You must close the door to anything that can lead to mischief. Even if the leader is not qualified for the position, you must obey him.

6️⃣ وَلاَ تَفْرُرْ مِنَ الزَّحْفِ، وَإِنْ هَلَكْتَ وَفَرَّ أَصْحَابُك ▶️ don’t run away from the battlefield even if you are about to die, and other run away. This is from السبع من الموبقات, the seven major sins.

7️⃣ وَأَنْفِقْ مِنْ طَوْلِكَ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ ▶️ spend on your household with generosity, don’t make your family members miserable. The best charity is to spend on your household. So be generous with whatever Allah has given you.

8️⃣ وَلاَ تَرْفَعْ عَصَاكَ عَنْ أَهْلِكَ ▶️ don’t beat anyone in your household. Beating is not a quick reform; it should be used as a last resort. There are rules for this as well; the beating cannot be painful, you should never strike the face, and it should not leave a scar.

9️⃣ وَأَخِفْهُمْ فِي اللهِ عَزَّ ▶️ make your household fear Allah, not people, when they do anything wrong. The best upbringing is to put the awareness of Allah in the hearts of the children, that Allah is watching them.


صحيح 19.
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ كَثِيرٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ: جِئْتُ أُبَايِعُكَ عَلَى الْهِجْرَةِ، وَتَرَكْتُ أَبَوَيَّ يَبْكِيَانِ؟ قَالَ: ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِمَا فَأَضْحِكْهُمَا كَمَا أَبْكَيْتَهُمَا.
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, ‘I
have come to make you a pledge that will do hijra although I have left my parents in tears.” The Prophet said, ‘Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.'”
To make your parents laugh is a worship. Your desire may dictate you to go, but your duty is with your parents.


20. صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْجَعْدِ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ حَبِيبِ بْنِ أَبِي ثَابِتٍ قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ أَبَا الْعَبَّاسِ الأَعْمَى، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ: جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يُرِيدُ الْجِهَادَ، فَقَالَ: أَحَيٌّ وَالِدَاكَ؟ فَقَالَ: نَعَمْ، فَقَالَ: فَفِيهِمَا فَجَاهِدْ.
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr said, “A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, ‘Are your parents alive?’ ‘Yes,’ he replied. he said, ‘Then exert yourself on their behalf.'”

Your jihad is to be with your parents, to be good and obedient to them.


10 – بَابُ مَنْ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ فَلَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْجَنَّةَ
Chapter: The One who Fails his Parents will not enter the Garden

21. صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدُ بْنُ مَخْلَدٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ بِلاَلٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا سُهَيْلٌ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ: رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ، رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ، رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ، قَالُوا: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ مَنْ؟ قَالَ: مَنْ أَدْرَكَ وَالِدَيْهِ عِنْدَ الْكِبْرِ، أَوْ أَحَدَهُمَا، فَدَخَلَ النَّارَ.
Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!” They said, “Messenger of Allah, who?” He said, “The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire.”

If your parents are alive, this is the greatest opportunity to go to Jannah.
رَغِمَ أَنْفُهُ ▶️ literally, may his nose be rubbed in the dirt, is a dua against the person, whose partners reach old age and he doesn’t avail the blessing to be taken to Jannah.

Disobedience to parents is such a huge sin, that it results in the person being punished in the dunya and the akhirah. It is easy to obey the parents when you are young, because you have to. But when you are strong and independent, and they are old and weak, that is the time you must strive to obey them. They don’t need your money as much as they need you to accompany them.


11 – بَابُ مَنْ بَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ زَادَ اللَّهُ فِي عُمْرِهِ
Chapter: Allah prolongs the life of someone who is dutiful towards his

ضعيف 22.
حَدَّثَنَا أَصْبَغُ بْنُ الْفَرَجِ قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي ابْنُ وَهْبٍ، عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ أَيُّوبَ، عَنْ زَبَّانَ بْنِ فَائِدٍ، عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم: مَنْ بَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ طُوبَى لَهُ، زَادَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي عُمْرِهِ.
Mu’adh said, “Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will prolong his life.”

This hadith is weak, but is supported by other ahadeeth.

Allah will increase the lifespan of the person who strives for the sake of Allah, to be dutiful to his parents.
Imagines long life, with sound mind and body, and abundant good deeds. This is a great blessing.

There are four books of records ↙️
🔺يومي ▶️ daily
🔺سنوي ▶️ yearly
🔺عمري ▶️ lifetime
🔺 اللوح المحفوظ ▶️ the Preserved Tablet

The writing of the angels can be changed by certain good deeds, by the will of Allah. The writing in the womb eh mother can also be altered. The Preserved Tablet cannot be changed, and it contains the end result. Sometimes Allah inspires you to make a dua, and as a consequence, He changes something from your book. This is an incentive to strive to do good, because we don’t know what is written in our books. The dua has so much power, that Allah will erase things without even the angels knowing about it.


12 – بَابُ لاَ يَسْتَغْفِرُ لأَبِيهِ الْمُشْرِكِ
Chapter: One does not ask forgiveness for his father if he is a mushrik
حسن الإسناد 23.
حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ حُسَيْنٍ قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ يَزِيدَ النَّحْوِيِّ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، فِي قَوْلِهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ: {إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلاَهُمَا فَلاَ تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ} إِلَى قَوْلِهِ: {كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا}، فَنَسَخَتْهَا الْآيَةُ فِي بَرَاءَةَ: {مَا كَانَ لِلنَّبِيِّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرُوا لِلْمُشْرِكِينَ وَلَوْ كَانُوا أُولِي قُرْبَى مِنْ بَعْدِ مَا تَبَيَّنَ لَهُمْ أَنَّهُمْ أَصْحَابُ الْجَحِيمِ}.
Ibn ‘Abbas mentioned the words of the Almighty, “When one or both of them reach old age with you, do not say ‘Ugh!’ to them out of irritation and do not be harsh with them but speak to them with gentleness and generosity. Take them under your wing, out of mercy, with due humility and say:
‘Lord, show mercy to them as they did in looking after me when I was small.” (17:23-24) He said, “This was abrogated in Surat at-Tawba: ‘It is not right for the Prophet and those who have iman to ask forgiveness for the mushrikun even if they are close relatives after it has become clear to them that they are the Companions of the Blazing Fire.’ (9:113)”
Whatever your parents do, don’t even say uff. This own word can take a person to the hellfire for 70,000 years! The children may become bored, tired of caring for elderly parents, complain about them. The parents might dirty themselves, eat sloppily, talk about embarrassing things. So when you clean them, don’t say uff, whether they do to you, it is their right. There has to be respect for the parents, or there will be unrest in society.

Your attitude and speech towards your parents should be as a sinner slave to his master, showing his humility.

For a disbeliever parent, you cannot ask for mercy of forgiveness, only for guidance when they are still alive. When a disbeliever dies on apparent shirk, Allah will not forgive him.


بَابُ بِرِّ الْوَالِدِ الْمُشْرِكِ – 13
Chapter: Dutifulness towards a parent who is an idolater

24. صحيح
حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا إِسْرَائِيلُ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا سِمَاكٌ، عَنْ مُصْعَبِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ سَعْدِ بْنِ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ قَالَ: نَزَلَتْ فِيَّ أَرْبَعُ آيَاتٍ مِنْ كِتَابِ اللهِ تَعَالَى: كَانَتْ أُمِّي حَلَفَتْ أَنْ لاَ تَأْكُلَ وَلاَ تَشْرَبَ حَتَّى أُفَارِقَ مُحَمَّدًا صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ: {وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلاَ تُطُعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا}. وَالثَّانِيَةُ: أَنِّي كُنْتُ أَخَذْتُ سَيْفًا أَعْجَبَنِي، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، هَبْ لِي هَذَا، فَنَزَلَتْ: {يَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الأَنْفَالِ}. وَالثَّالِثَةُ: أَنِّي مَرِضْتُ فَأَتَانِي رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ، إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَقْسِمَ مَالِي، أَفَأُوصِي بِالنِّصْفِ؟ فَقَالَ: لاَ، فَقُلْتُ: الثُّلُثُ؟ فَسَكَتَ، فَكَانَ الثُّلُثُ بَعْدَهُ جَائِزًا. وَالرَّابِعَةُ: إِنِّي شَرِبْتُ الْخَمْرَ مَعَ قَوْمٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ، فَضَرَبَ رَجُلٌ مِنْهُمْ أَنْفِي بِلَحْيِ جَمَلٍ، فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَنْزَلَ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ تَحْرِيمَ الْخَمْرِ.
Sa’id ibn Abi Waqqas said:
“Four ayats were revealed about me. The first was when my mother swore she would neither eat nor drink until I left Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. Allah Almighty revealed, ‘But if they try to make you associate something with Me about which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. Keep company with them correctly and courteously in this world’ (31:15) The second was when I took a sword that I admired and said, ‘Messenger of Allah, give me this!’ Then the ayat was revealed: ‘They will ask you about booty.’ (8:1) The third was when I was ill and the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came to me and I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, I want to divide my property. Can I will away a half?’ He said, ‘No.’ ‘A third?’ I asked. He was silent and so after that it was allowed to will away a third. The fourth was when I had been drinking wine with some of the Ansar. One of them hit my nose with the jawbone of a camel. I went to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and Allah Almighty revealed the prohibition of wine.”

Sa’ad Ibn Abi Waqas رضي الله عنه was on of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم, who was given the glad tidings of sunnah in his lifetime. His son narrated this hadith. Four ayaat were revealed for him, and this is a great honour indeed.

1⃣ (31:15 وَإِنْ جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَى أَنْ تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلاَ تُطُعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا (سورة لقمان
His mother refused to eat or drink until he left Islam. She didn’t eat for three days and nights. He can to visits her after the three days, and told her he would not leave Islam even if she had hundred souls and they all left her body one by one.

Don’t obey your parents when they ask you to commit shirk, or bida’h, but be good to them, and accompany them in dunya matters. Don’t be harsh to them, or leave them.

2⃣ (8:1 يَسْأَلُونَكَ عَنِ الْأَنفَالِ ۖ قُلِ الْأَنفَالُ لِلَّهِ وَالرَّسُولِ (سورة الأنفال
Sa’ad saw a sword in the battlefield and admired it, and wanted it as booty, so he asked the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم, and Allah revealed the ayah. You cannot take whatever you want for the booty. The booty, or أنفال, is something extra, a bonus. It is not the main reason for fighting, you should fight for Allah.

3⃣ After the opening of Makkah, and the Farewell Hajj, Sa’ad was very sick and thought he would die, so he wanted to bequeath his property, so he asked the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم, and was eventually allowed to bequeath one third of his property, and Allah sent the ayah.

4⃣ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّمَا الْخَمْرُ وَالْمَيْسِرُ وَالْأَنصَابُ وَالْأَزْلَامُ رِجْسٌ مِّنْ عَمَلِ الشَّيْطَانِ فَاجْتَنِبُوهُ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ
O you who have believed, indeed, intoxicants, gambling, [sacrificing on] stone alters [to other than Allah ], and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful.
سورة المائدة

One day, Sa’ad was drinking with the Ansar, as alcohol had not been prohibited then. One of the men was
drunk, and hit Sa’ad on his nose with a bone. He went to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم to complain, and Allah sent the ayah prohibiting alcohol. When this ayah was revealed, everyone threw their stores of alcohol, and the streets of Madinah were awash with it.

The Sahaba always demonstrated instant submission to all the commands of Allah, and the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم.

A similar reaction was seen when the ayah of hijab was sent; the Sahabiat immediately covered, with whatever material they could find, not caring about their appearance.

صحيح 25.
حَدَّثَنَا الْحُمَيْدِيُّ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنِي أَبِي قَالَ: أَخْبَرَتْنِي أَسْمَاءُ بِنْتُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ قَالَتْ: أَتَتْنِي أُمِّي رَاغِبَةً، فِي عَهْدِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَسَأَلْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم: أَصِلُهَا؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ. قَالَ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ: فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِيهَا: {لاَ يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ}.
Asma’ bint Abi Bakr said, “In the time of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, ‘Do I have to treat her well?’ ‘Yes,’ he replied.”

The mother of Asma was not Muslim at that time, so she asked the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم if if she could connect with her. The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه و سلم replied in the affirmative, and then Allah sent the ayah. The Sahaba and Sahabiat never did anything without asking. This hadith also shows that you must be good to your parents even if they are disbelievers.


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